5-7 years / please store in a cool, dry place
Published on May 1, 2007 By Dan Kaschel In Sex & Romance
It's about time. She's been my best friend for years; I trust her absolutely, and I weight her opinions more heavily than my own. A week ago tonight, I told her that I wanted more than friendship. I told her to think and pray about it for as long as she needed, and to call me when she had an answer. I guessed it would take six days.

I was off by two days. When friends lay down big ultimatums like this, it's an unspoken rule that the two have to be incommunicado for the duration of the decision making. Text message doesn't count (I guess, because she messaged me today to let me know she was calling tomorrow).

Tomorrow, I find out if I lose my best friend or gain a girl friend. I know, I know, it doesn't have to be one or the other. Except... it does. There's no more crippling feeling than being in a relationship that is only partially expressed. I'm nervous. I'm terrified. I'm in love.

All par for the course, I guess, at twenty years old. Except that it is my life. My love. My best friend. Maybe that sounds stupid, but sometimes I find I have no choice but to admit that I have some growing up to do. I think this is a big step.

Prayers and happy thoughts... would be good. If you can bring yourself to pray, please do even if you don't believe anybody's listening. I do.

And now, I will hold my breath, and release it in about twenty-four hours. Starting....

...now...

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on May 02, 2007
For the record, even knowing the result, I still would have done it. Relationships have to move forward; you can't keep them stagnant for fear of the future.

I'm allowed to say irritating things like that during my 24-hour grieving period.

Dan
on May 02, 2007
I'm allowed to say irritating things like that during my 24-hour grieving period.


So what's your excuse the rest of the time?

Seriously though, Dan, I'm really sorry this didn't work out the way you wanted. But I'm glad that despite that, you'd still do it again -- there is something to be admired about those people who are willing to take risks (says the relationship yellowbelly!)
on May 02, 2007
"So what's your excuse the rest of the time?"

Jerk

Dan
on May 02, 2007
Jerk


only cause I love ya. glad to see you sense of humor is still intact.
on May 02, 2007
Sorry Dan.

You know that song by Garth Brooks..."Unanswered prayers?"

Maybe this is yours.
on May 02, 2007
"only cause I love ya. glad to see you sense of humor is still intact."

I'm doing all right. I may just be in shock, but right now, I'm doing okay. No regrets, you know?

"Maybe this is yours."

The way I figure it, she's already been my answer to prayer hundreds of times. I don't feel betrayed by getting a "no" after so many "yes"'s.

Dan
on May 03, 2007
The way I figure it, she's already been my answer to prayer hundreds of times. I don't feel betrayed by getting a "no" after so many "yes"'s.

With such an attitude of focusing on what you have, not on what you don't have, you will go far my son.

I continue to pray.

Dad
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